The Kind of Love That Stays: Lessons from the Friendship of Ruth and Naomi

The story of Ruth and her mother-in-law Naomi is one that never stops inspiring me. Every time I return to it, I discover something deeper—something richer—something I may have missed before. There’s just something about that quiet strength, that unshakable loyalty, that steady, sacrificial love that grips your heart and doesn’t let go.

Let’s take a moment to step back and reflect on this story together.

We meet Naomi—a woman who had it all. A husband. Two sons. Stability. Then famine strikes. And like many of us would, they make the difficult decision to relocate. Naomi, her husband, and their sons leave the land of Israel in search of something better. If we’re honest, not everyone had the means to do that. Think of it like the japa wave in Nigeria today—where those with enough resources and opportunity migrate for a better life.

Naomi’s family heads to Moab, and for a while, it seems like they settle well. The boys grow up and get married. Life moves forward—until it doesn’t.

Naomi loses her husband. Then her two sons. She’s left with nothing but her two young daughters-in-law—Ruth and Orpah. Moabite women from a different culture, a different faith, a different world. And yet, even after their husbands die, both of them initially choose to stay with Naomi. That alone speaks volumes.

Naomi must have been a remarkable woman.

In a world where mother-in-law stories are often clouded with tension and distance, Naomi’s story shines differently. She hadn’t just maintained a relationship—she had built a friendship. A bond deeper than tradition. One rooted in respect, kindness, and spiritual connection. She didn’t just “tolerate” her daughters-in-law. She loved them—and they loved her back.

Eventually, Naomi decides to return home to Israel. She urges the women to go back to their families, saying, “You’re still young. Start over. Remarry. Don’t tie your future to my pain.”

Orpah, with tears and kisses, says goodbye.

But Ruth?

Ruth clings to her.

And then she speaks words that send chills down my spine every single time I read them:

“Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me.”

Ruth 1:16–17 (KJV)

Can you feel the weight of that vow?

That’s not casual loyalty. That’s covenant. That’s friendship that costs something. Ruth wasn’t reacting emotionally in the moment—she had made up her mind long before then. This wasn’t about clinging to what she had lost; it was about holding fast to what she had found. She had seen something in Naomi. Something in Naomi’s faith, her values, her God. And Ruth knew: This is the life I want. This is the God I want. I’m not going back.

What strikes me even more is Naomi’s heart. Even in her sorrow, she was thinking about Ruth and Orpah’s future. She didn’t let her grief turn into bitterness. She still gave. She still cared. She still poured into others. That’s grace.

And Ruth—oh, Ruth. She laid everything down. Her culture. Her country. Her comfort. Even her identity. She followed Naomi—not just to a new land, but to a new faith. To the one true God.

It reminds me of Abraham, who left everything he knew to follow God into the unknown. Ruth walked that same road. And God honored her for it.

But Ruth didn’t just love with words. She worked. She gleaned in fields—not glamorous work, but humble and backbreaking. She wasn’t looking for pity. She simply did what needed to be done to survive and support Naomi. And it’s in the ordinary, sweat-filled routine of gathering leftover grain that God’s quiet providence starts to unfold.

The Bible says she “happened” to glean in the field of Boaz. But we know better. That wasn’t luck. That was divine orchestration. No thunder, no lightning—just everyday grace. Sometimes we think if it’s not dramatic, it’s not God. But Ruth’s story reminds us: He is always working—even in silence.

Then comes Boaz.

A man of integrity. A man of honor. He notices Ruth—not just her appearance, but her character. Her loyalty. Her faith.

“It hath fully been shewed me, all that thou hast done unto thy mother in law… and how thou hast left thy father and thy mother, and the land of thy nativity, and art come unto a people which thou knewest not heretofore.”

Ruth 2:11

Boaz becomes her kinsman-redeemer—a legal, godly provision under Israel’s law to restore the inheritance and future of a family line. Through this union, Ruth becomes part of the lineage of King David. And eventually… of Jesus Christ Himself.

Pause.

Let that sink in.

Ruth—a Moabite woman. A descendant of a people born from incest. A people once excluded from Israel’s assembly for ten generations (Deuteronomy 23:3). And yet, she’s grafted into the royal lineage of the Messiah.

That’s not just grace. That’s radical, world-shaking grace.

And let’s not forget Naomi.

She returned to Bethlehem empty. Bitter. She even renamed herself Mara, saying God had dealt bitterly with her. But by the end of the story, she’s holding a child in her arms—a grandchild born through Ruth and Boaz. The same women who whispered when she returned now gather around her with praise.

“Blessed be the Lord… for thy daughter in law, which loveth thee, which is better to thee than seven sons.”

Ruth 4:14–15

From emptiness to overflow.

From bitterness to blessing.

From loss to legacy.

That’s redemption.

So I ask myself—and maybe you should too:

Am I a Ruth?

Do I love deeply, serve faithfully, and follow God even when the road ahead is uncertain?

Am I a Naomi?

Do I still care, still love, still encourage—even when I feel emptied out by life?

This story isn’t just about a woman and her mother-in-law. It’s about covenant friendship, resilient faith, and the kind of love that stays—even when it doesn’t make sense.

Ruth didn’t have to follow Naomi.

She didn’t have to glean.

She didn’t have to believe.

But she did.

And because of that, her name will never be forgotten.

You don’t need a spotlight to live a legacy.

Sometimes the most powerful stories are written in quiet obedience.

In faith that follows.

In love that chooses to stay.

In loyalty that never looks back.

May we live lives that echo Ruth’s loyalty, Naomi’s grace, and Boaz’s honor.

And may we trust that even in the ordinary, God is faithfully writing a story of redemption.


This is what grace looks like—joy that overflows, laughter that heals, and a heart full of gratitude. Ruth’s story reminds us: even after loss, God writes beauty into our lives.


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  1. I had similar insights into the relationship of these three women. Naomi, Ruth, and Orpah. Reading yours is like revising mine. Thanks 👍🏾.

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